Things I Read and Loved This Week

  • How to dress for cold weather, explained by an arctic researcher by Rebecca Jennings, Vox

    • “The first and most important of them is to wear lots of loose layers — the key word here being “loose.” That’s because the insulated air that circulates between each layer is what’s actually keeping you warm. The more active you plan to be, the fewer layers you should wear.”

    • I don’t know if it’s just my ignorance that stems from growing up in the soupy hell called Florida, but my mind is blown. Also, just a brilliant idea to talk to an arctic researcher.

  • The Mom Who Has Sex With Her Husband Every Night, The Cut

    • “We use a lot of lube in my marriage. It helps me keep up with this much sex. I can’t get wet and be horny all the time. But with the right lube, I do enjoy it.”

    • I just can’t stop thinking about her. Who is she? Someone save her! I’m glad she understands the value of lube but, my girl, you are not his sex toy. I also love hearing about her adventure to Brooklyn, our humble borough of plebeians.

  • We’re Finally Listening To Lorena Bobbitt. Why Did It Take So Long? by Scaachi Koul, BuzzFeed

    • “And these retrospectives tend to fit a similar pattern: We are asked or encouraged to reconsider a woman whose public image was linked inextricably with a man’s bad behavior, whose reputation was destroyed while the man got away relatively consequence-free.”

    • If you haven’t watched the Lorena documentary, do that first. It will leave you emotionally wrecked, but it reframes the way we deal with sexual assault, both publicly and privately. Koul calls attention to the spectator’s role, not just when the media attacks a victim, but also when we see the bruises on a woman’s arm. So many people knew Lorena was being abused and did nothing. Both the documentary and Koul ask: How can we do better? And why haven’t we figured it out yet?