Things I Read and Loved This Week

  • How to dress for cold weather, explained by an arctic researcher by Rebecca Jennings, Vox

    • “The first and most important of them is to wear lots of loose layers — the key word here being “loose.” That’s because the insulated air that circulates between each layer is what’s actually keeping you warm. The more active you plan to be, the fewer layers you should wear.”

    • I don’t know if it’s just my ignorance that stems from growing up in the soupy hell called Florida, but my mind is blown. Also, just a brilliant idea to talk to an arctic researcher.

  • The Mom Who Has Sex With Her Husband Every Night, The Cut

    • “We use a lot of lube in my marriage. It helps me keep up with this much sex. I can’t get wet and be horny all the time. But with the right lube, I do enjoy it.”

    • I just can’t stop thinking about her. Who is she? Someone save her! I’m glad she understands the value of lube but, my girl, you are not his sex toy. I also love hearing about her adventure to Brooklyn, our humble borough of plebeians.

  • We’re Finally Listening To Lorena Bobbitt. Why Did It Take So Long? by Scaachi Koul, BuzzFeed

    • “And these retrospectives tend to fit a similar pattern: We are asked or encouraged to reconsider a woman whose public image was linked inextricably with a man’s bad behavior, whose reputation was destroyed while the man got away relatively consequence-free.”

    • If you haven’t watched the Lorena documentary, do that first. It will leave you emotionally wrecked, but it reframes the way we deal with sexual assault, both publicly and privately. Koul calls attention to the spectator’s role, not just when the media attacks a victim, but also when we see the bruises on a woman’s arm. So many people knew Lorena was being abused and did nothing. Both the documentary and Koul ask: How can we do better? And why haven’t we figured it out yet?

Things I Read and Loved This Week

  • How “Self-Care” Went From Radical to Frou-Frou to Radical Once Again by Aisha Curry, Slate

    • “Women and people of color viewed controlling their health as a corrective to the failures of a white, patriarchal medical system to properly tend to their needs.”

  • The unique harm we cause when we dissect a powerful woman’s love life by Monica Hesse, Washington Post

    • “We talk about men abusing power. We talk about women not even deserving power. The distinction matters, because the conversation isn’t really about sex, it’s about legitimacy. It’s about who we think has earned the right to be successful, and what criteria we’ll invent, and who we’ll apply it to.”

  • The wind sometimes feels in error by Luke O’Neil, Welcome to Hell World

    • "“When someone is gone you can hear their name once and it makes them exist all over again their past and their future all coalescing right in your present. They won’t know it but you do and then it’s your problem to figure out what to do with the burden.”